Re-charge and reflect - two unnerving but purposeful words. Getting married was one of the best in my life. If dreams come true, mine definitely hit the spot with my wedding. There are moments when I feel like it was just yesterday, and others when I feel like it was a lifetime ago. It was such a magical day. Everything seems to go perfectly. (I found out later, it didn't). But, that is what a bride should feel - like everything is smooth and she has somehow landed into this moment she always dreamed about. If you are reading this, and are married, you know that the difference between a wedding and a marriage is LIFE HAPPENS.
When the wedding and honeymoon are over, real life takes precedence and sometimes it's not what you dreamed about. Now, don't get me wrong. I have a wonderful marriage and it's with the man that I choose to love, and thank God, he chooses to love me back, every single day. It's work. It's sometimes really hard work, but it's life. And I wouldn't have it any other way.
Looking back on such a pivotal moment in my own history, it helped be reflect on my life. So many moments have happened since then. Mom is now the word I am most referred to as, having two beautiful kids that call me that. Business owner is a title that I have held for years now, and what I am know as in the community. So many memories. Carl and I have traveled across the world together and experienced real adventure - that's something I'll save for another story. But yeah, life happens whether we are prepared for it to or not.
In thinking about life and change and reflection, I encourage you, this week, to take some time to remember. If you listened to our podcast on self-care, many of it included journaling. Now, I know what you're thinking - 'I'm not the journaling type'. Me either, or so I thought. I started journaling as a self-care practice last March and it literally has saved me from some of my darkest times. So today, I employ you to remember and reflect through the practice of journaling.
Remember a moment, like mine, where you experienced something you had been waiting for your entire life. Maybe a moment where you fell in love, or had your first child. Remember any moment that makes you smile. While doing so, reflect on your feelings. What are you feeling? Why are you feeling this way? Where is it stemming from? Who is it associated with? And then, write. Write until your arm gets tired. It may sound tedious and useless, but I promise it will be worth it. It may not feel like it in the moment, but a week from now, a month from now, maybe even a year from now - those words will be to your soul like water is to a wound - purifying, cleansing and re-birthing something better.
Do it now. Begin the process of re-charge and reflection by journaling. Start today, and if you can, commit to a year. Even if it's just your name on a paper somedays, this practice will change your life. Before you know it, you will be writing sentences. Even pages will be documented on those really intense days. It's okay. I know you are scared, but you can do it. Open your mind to this new practice and it will free you in ways I cannot put into words. And, one day, when you look back at all the ways you spent dutifully re-charging, you will reflect on those journaled pages and smile.
Smile at the memory you haven't created yet. ;)
Life & Enneagram Coach